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Don’t Believe Everything You Think: Breaking Free from Cognitive Distortions”

  • Writer: Larry Jackson
    Larry Jackson
  • Apr 30
  • 3 min read

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I always mess things up,” or “They didn’t text back… they must be mad at me”? If so, you’re not alone. These types of thoughts are called cognitive distortions — automatic, inaccurate thoughts that reinforce negative emotions and unhealthy behavior patterns.


In therapy, we often say, “Thoughts aren’t facts.” But many people live as if every thought that crosses their mind is the truth. Let’s dig into what cognitive distortions are, how they impact your mental and relational health, and how Scripture helps us renew our minds.


What Are Cognitive Distortions?

Cognitive distortions are habitual ways of thinking that are biased, exaggerated, or irrational. They distort how we see ourselves, others, and the world around us. These distortions fuel anxiety, depression, insecurity, and broken relationships.

Dr. Aaron Beck, one of the fathers of cognitive therapy, and Dr. David Burns, who expanded on his work, identified many of these patterns. Below are a few of the most common.


Top 10 Common Cognitive Distortions

  1. All-or-Nothing Thinking

“If I fail once, I’m a total failure.”Seeing things in black-and-white categories. There’s no room for growth or grace.
  1. Overgeneralization

“This always happens to me.”You take one negative event and believe it will repeat forever.
  1. Mental Filtering

“They said I was helpful, but they also mentioned one thing I could improve—so I must’ve done terribly.”You focus only on the negative and ignore the positive.
  1. Discounting the Positive

“They’re just being nice. They didn’t really mean that compliment.”You reject positive experiences by convincing yourself they don’t count.
  1. Jumping to ConclusionsIncludes:

  2. Mind Reading: “I know they’re disappointed in me.”

  3. Fortune Telling: “This will never work out.”

  4. Catastrophizing

“If I make one mistake, everything will fall apart.”Expecting the worst-case scenario automatically.
  1. Emotional Reasoning

“I feel useless, so I must be useless.”You treat emotions as truth, rather than as signals.
  1. “Should” Statements

“I should be stronger by now. I shouldn’t feel this way.”You try to motivate yourself with guilt and shame, which usually backfires.
  1. Labeling

“I’m just lazy. I’m a failure.”Instead of describing your behavior, you define your identity by your flaws.
  1. Personalization & Blame

“It’s my fault they’re upset.”You take responsibility for things outside your control, or blame others unfairly.

How Do These Thoughts Impact Relationships?

  • You may pull away emotionally due to assumptions.

  • You might lash out, expecting rejection before it even happens.

  • You stop giving the benefit of the doubt or asking for clarification.

  • You start living in a world of “what ifs” instead of “what’s real.”


The Spiritual Side of Distorted Thinking

Scripture teaches us that not every thought deserves our attention:

“We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” – 2 Corinthians 10:5“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2

The enemy thrives in confusion and distortion. Many cognitive distortions are subtle lies we’ve rehearsed for years. But the Word of God is truth—and truth sets us free (John 8:32).


Healing from Distorted Thinking: A Mindset Shift

  1. Identify the distortionAsk: “Is this thought absolutely true? Or could it be distorted?”

  2. Challenge the thought“What’s the evidence for and against this belief?”“What would I say to a friend who thought this?”

  3. Replace it with truthScriptural truth is a powerful antidote.Instead of: “I’m a failure,” try “I can learn from this mistake. God is still working in me.”

  4. Practice self-compassionYour healing doesn’t require perfection — just awareness, repentance, and willingness to grow.


Final Reflection: Don’t Let Lies Shape Your Life


You are not your thoughts. You are not your fears. You are not your past. You are a child of God, being renewed daily in the spirit of your mind.


Mental clarity and emotional peace begin when we stop believing every thought and start questioning them instead.


Take time this week to observe your inner dialogue. If the voice in your head sounds more like an accuser than an encourager, it’s time to replace it with the voice of truth.


A Prayer for Mental Clarity

“Lord, help me to recognize the lies I’ve believed and replace them with Your truth. Renew my mind. Help me take captive the thoughts that do not serve my spirit, and give me the wisdom and courage to speak to myself with grace. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

 
 
 

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